Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel

Mating in Captivity

By Esther Perel

  • Release Date: 2009-10-13
  • Genre: Psychology
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Description

A New York City therapist examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, Perel examines the complexities of sustaining desire. Through case studies and lively discussion, this essential relationship advice guide demonstrates how more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex is possible in long-term relationships. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is straightforward, Mating in Captivity is a sensational book that will transform the way you live and love.

This groundbreaking book on modern relationships reveals proven strategies to reconcile the erotic and the domestic:
Erotic Intelligence: Explore a bold, provocative new take on sexuality and learn why the very things that build intimacy can stifle desire.Intimacy vs. Desire: Understand the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual passion, and discover what it truly takes to bring lust home.Sustaining Passion: Drawing on over twenty years of clinical experience, Perel offers frameworks for making more exciting, playful, and even poetic sex possible in long-term relationships.Modern Love: A witty, revelatory, and straightforward guide that will transform the way you think about the complexities of love and desire in today’s world.

Reviews

  • Mating in Captivity

    5
    By MichelleReyesMD
    Love love love this book and author. Written so eloquently which as a bibliophile and scientist, I find necessary. Author presents so many optimistic and mind bending concepts of what happens and what doesn’t have to happen to the erotic and sexual relationship when it is subject to commitment.

  • Aggressive , assertive, and accessible.

    5
    By sadatsaidhasib
    Esther does a beautiful job of exploring erotic intelligence. Not to mention the interdependent opposite aspects of life. Noteworthy.

  • So Honest!

    5
    By TownKeeper22
    Scary like looking in a mirror, or peering through a crack in the neighbor’s doorway. Glad for the relationship I “have,” but thankful for the caution and insight on how to keep it sexy!

  • This is it.

    5
    By Gabby_Bunch
    A must for literally everyone. Profound thinking. This book helped me reimagine my relationship with my husband after becoming a mom and gave me tools to better articulate my thoughts, feelings and emotions about my present state as well as the past circumstances that lead me to this place.

  • A refreshing perspective

    5
    By MzM.Manifest
    The examples of different couples and their approaches to eroticism was helpful.

  • Awesome

    5
    By Riverence
    Good book, interesting topics. Highly recommend to read. Thank you Easter Perel .

  • Slowish start, with an incredibly profound 2nd half!

    4
    By FlyDuo
    My wife and I (25yrs+ married) have been reading this book 2gether at night over several weeks now (little bits at a time). Initially it was not the most energizing read, but because it’d come so highly recommended we kept at it; thankfully we did cuz at a certain point, it just bcomes legit powerful. Our goal was just to read like 10 to 15 minutes or so at a time to unwind. But, as we got deeper into it our sessions kept goin’ longer and longer, sometimes a full chapter or two at a time. It connects and Esther’s examples…just hit. Especially the last few chapters; they’re def the payoff you’ve been promised from anyone who’s recommended this book. It is well worth the read. A new go-to recommendation for peeps interested in sexuality and relationships.

  • Definitely a must-read

    5
    By Mandalay21
    Whether you’re in a relationship or not this is an important book to read to understand not just sex and sexuality but people’s relationships with the unknown or erotic intelligence. I wish I’d read it sooner!

  • A necessary wedding gift

    5
    By marcelm(NicknameTaken)
    After reading it I am convinced it would have saved my marriage . How eye opening.. It should be a wedding gift - always

  • This book has definitely set the captives free !!!!

    5
    By MyMy2017
    I thank God for Esther Perel. This book has legitimately revolutionized the way we view sex and relationships. It emphasizes albeit ever so subtly yet assertively that we must be whole and healed first. Most of the relationship issues we face stem not from other people or circumstances but from our own unhealed traumas and identity issues. Love this book!!!!!

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